Of all the relationships that youll ever have throughout your life, the most important one is the relationship that you have with yourself. The reason for this is because how you feel about yourself is going to reflect in every other relationship you ever become involved in. If you have bad feelings about yourself, the chances are good that youre going to have a hard time being in a loving relationship. Those negative feelings will show themselves in the way you conduct yourself with the person youre supposed to be in love with. However, if you find it impossible to love yourself, how are you going to be able to love anyone else?
If youre having some issues with loving yourself, there are some ways that you can push that along. First of all, learn the definition of self-respect. When you respect yourself, youll make sure that others adhere to the boundaries that youve set for yourself. As long as you allow everyone to cross those boundaries, your life is invaded and youre no long able to have any self-respect because people are always going to be taking advantage of you. A lot of people realize it when theyre being taken advantage of and it produces feelings of hurtfulness and humiliation. Just dont let that happen to you.
Realize that youre a valuable and worthwhile human being. When you let yourself be berated and trod upon by others, you develop a sense of being worthless. Never let anyone tell you that youre stupid, dumb or unimportant. If you allow this from people, soon enough youll start to believe it yourself. It nibbles away at your self-confidence and self-esteem until you actually believe that you dont deserve anyone or anything good in your life. You end up settling for those guys that expect you to be their gravy train along with their maid. Dont do that to yourself.
So many women in abusive relationships are there because they allowed others to make them believe that they belonged in those types of relationships. Theyve been taught through the years that they deserve to be hit and yelled at by the man thats supposed to love them above all overs. In spite of what you may believe, thats not love. The man that will treat his wife or girlfriend that way does not love her. Nor does he respect her. Dont let yourself be sucked into this sick and twisted type of situation.
If you find that you have these feelings of worthlessness, you must get some help in fixing that immediately. Make no mistake; if you feel this way about yourself, you are damaged or broken in some way and need to be repaired. The person or persons responsible for treating you so badly that you do view yourself this way needs more help than you do. They need to learn the damage theyve caused and they need to learn to feel shame for having done that. Then they can get to work on why they felt the need to behave that way.
Do whatever you must to love yourself. Its the only way youll ever have a happy and successful relationship with anyone else.
Love Yourself First
