You know, it’s really amazing to me just how much advice there is out there on how to win love back. The sad part is that a lot of that advice, while given with the best of intentions, is misguided or plain wrong. Don’t these people realize that they are dealing real lives? You really have to wonder sometimes if these people are completely clueless, or if they just don’t care.
One of the worst things you can do is try to track down your ex; to contact them constantly; to be a pest. All of those things may make you feel like you’re doing something to get your ex back, but the truth is that you will only be pushing them further away. That’s right. The very actions you are taking could be having the exact opposite of the desired effect. Calling late at night, sending tons of text messages, or bumping into the “accidentally” are all examples of using the wrong approach.
Surely there must be a better way of how to win love back. You be there is! Most of what you think you know is probably wrong. I don’t mean this to be rude, but if you knew the right things to do, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article because the two of you would be back together. That may sound harsh, but it’s more important to have a reality check than to sugar-coat the problem. Facing reality is what you’re going to have to do if you’re serious about getting your ex back.
A lot of people will suggest different mind games for you to play in the hopes that your ex can be fooled into to going back to you. But even if those mind games worked, your ex would be coming back under false pretenses. You may be together after playing these silly games, but it won’t last. If you want to have a long-lasting relationship then it has to be built on the foundation of honesty.
The other thing you need to do is treat your ex with respect, even if you still have some bad feelings about the break up. Whenever you talk to them or see them, you should be respectful. Your ex is a person and deserves to be treated well, no matter what happens. But respect doesn’t just apply to dealings with your ex, it also applies to all the times you talk about your ex when they aren’t around. That means, to put it simply, no negative gossip.
Just be yourself. Don’t go overboard in trying to make your ex think you’re somebody that you’re not. Now, there is always a chance that you will get them back this way, but they aren’t really coming back to you; they’re coming back to who you’re pretending to be. And you won’t be able to keep up the charade forever. You’re best bet is to just be yourself, that’s one key of how to win love back.